Parenting is a Gifted Role

When you see your child growing, as a parent, you leverage your parenting in such a way that there will be more changed beliefs and attitudes on your part... and sometimes even when you feel hesitant to give up scolding, you still feel like doing so... then, after a minute... you find yourself charged with extra batteries of patience and begin to learn positive reinforcement, instead...

you talk slower, gentler, kinder...and you see how your happy mood eventually changed your child's annoying behavior.

Parenting has changed overtime...and I felt that...
It's been changing me too since I realized there's a li'l boy needing a mom-friend, a mom-teacher in one.

Every parent's guide to great parenting is no more than his/her own built-in abilities challenged to be re-built both in happy and annoying ways...

We own our parenting and have different stories that test us through and through... no perfect ones... but I suppose all parents strive to becoming one...while we all do, the world judges us in ways that fit its standard and so if we let the world set the standard, we're all trapped and limited to become the kind of parent we're designed to be...

We can only learn from other's ways...but we have to remain keeping our own style. Even if we have the entire internet at our disposal, we're not told to follow any single authority from there...rather, we keep our own, and not lose ourselves in the process.

Each parent is created too, for a unique purpose and design. We not only help mold our child to becoming better individual, we too are being molded for this role. 

However unique we are from each other, our baseline is...we need to be consistent and firm at loving our child, always...with or without social media calibrating its irrelevant expectations.


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A Child's Big Heart

I believe that it doesn't need a certain age level or a huge bank account for any individual to do simple acts that could mean a lot. Last year, of the same day today, JD asked me if we would allow him buy some knick - knacks for other kids in the neighborhood. Immediately after hearing our "Yes!", he called up his Lola Mommy in Maryland and solicited an amount for his kids' pantry. Without a second thought, his Lola Mommy deposited an amount, funding the li'l boy's initiative. It quickly knitted on my heart joy that until now I keep. Every time I see this photo when I happen to do some unintentional browsing, I call JD to thank him for the gift of being his mom... His heart for other people heals some void in my childhood...it wasn't that I wasn't loved and cared for...that's totally a wrong notion...the void was more of wanting to help other kids in the best way I can but I had no means...I didn't know how I must come - up to that... right ...

In loving our kids, we find our soul

We, moms sometimes... kind of lose our minds when raising kids but definitely, we find our soul. Parenting's not just an obligation but a privilege and realizing that, it feels like grace is permissive to have picked and included us to do the role...and while our kids are "works in progress", we are too. We put some effort, time... all our resources in, and much of the love we can give...then we find ourselves graced with more because raising kids is a gifted role. #sidedishesofparenting #homeschoolingJD

Unfolding Realities of Parenting

No parent is always conscious and gentle, positive and peaceful...at all times. ...and I understand it takes practice to be conscious and gentle, positive and peaceful at all times. Under all the conditioning, whether trauma or shame, social standard or other people's expectations, You are the parent you aspire to be. Never doubt yourself. Only accept the role and be grateful for being chosen to be part of your child's inward-out molding. No matter what the world says, claim your sovereignty as a parent. You are not alone in this journey. Don't get drained. Gods grace holds you. Whether you parent with a spouse or alone, God's grace holds you. #sidedishesofaparenting #positiveparenting #intentionalparenting

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